I have lately been confronted again with the thought of who I am.  I am not insecure of who I am, I KNOW who I am, nor did someone’s comments raise the thought.  It’s rather a question of life getting in the way and me forgetting what I am made of.

Especially this time of the year, we deal with so much on our plates.  We are woman – first of all.  Then we are wives, moms, we probably have more than one work, besides the fact that we run households.    And then we serve on how many committees, make school lunches and runs, ect.ect.ect.  I think you get the picture:  we are superwoman.

But in the middle of all this chaos is you.  And because you are so focused just to get through the day without anything going wrong,  we lose focus on ourselves.  We allow ourselves to get lost.  And then we forget who we are, what we are made of and where we are going.

So what to do?  All this commitments won’t go away.  At the end of the day, no matter what we do, we are still responsible for all that goes on around us.

Stop a moment and think:  when you are running around helping everyone around you, do you for one moment think about yourself?  When you are rushing to get everything done, how do you feel?  Heart racing?  Flustered?  Over heating?  Frustrated?  And if someone DARES to step out of line and change your rushed program?  We usually blow our tops!

Now imagine if you took that 10 minutes to grab a coffee or tea, just sit for a few minutes and took some deep breaths, how would you then handle your extremely busy day?

Now what if you write down everything you need to do.  Yes, bring the old school back and actually plan all your activities for the day.  I’m a big fan of the written dairy and would surely be lost with out mine…. other prefer to use their cell phones.  What ever rocks your boat.  I find when I write my fixed appointments n one color and add random appointments in another color, I can quickly distinguished between what I can still change and what appointments should not be moved.  Like me time.  These short times are marked in a bright color, so that I can not procrastinate and put something in it’s place.   Then it becomes easier to actually say no to other appointments or activities.  Then when I add my to do list for the day,  I find I can get through the day easier, plan my driving and still find time to put my feet up in between.

This has nothing to do with family time or meeting up with friends.  This is about you.  When we take care of ourselves, we can take better care of those around us.  As woman, we literally hold our families together.  Our emotions determine how their day would be, and ultimately ours too.  A tired, sad, angry, frustrated woman sets the same tone in the home.  But a woman of strength, light, focus, lightens the mood, sets the example and changes the world around them.

The stress and rush won’t change, unless you change.  And the only way change will come about, is when you first take care of yourself, then focus on what surrounds you.

Don’t let society dictate to you what you need.  Go make your own choices.  Make time for you.  And who you are will shine through.